Being alone

First of all, I love being alone.

Ok weird, really weird for some of my friends, they'd be like 'are you seriously going alone ?' 'what I am going to do, it's weird you know' but strangely it's not weird for me, hehe. I like going alone, being alone, but not for very often, just some time like once a month ; drinking coffee, my favourite strarbucks drink, green tea and spend the pages of my favourite books, walking around, thinking about life, myself, enjoy every sight.

When I go out alone, maybe to the mall, I always look for a comfy place to stay and write something on my notebook or read the book, tasting new drink ( well, I don't really like food hehe ). But something I'd never miss to come is bookstore, it's like a playground to me, I swear I had never felt like I was just looking around there for almost 2 or 3 hours, it's just like snap.

At first when I knew being alone is weird for some people, I thought like what is wrong ? But I realised it's all different for every person, and it's okay. 

“I think it's good for a person to spend time alone. It gives them an opportunity to discover who they are and to figure out why they are always alone.” 
― Amy Sedaris, I Like You: Hospitality Under the Influence

It's exactly what I think about, what I like from being alone is that you can discover who you really are and figure things out. I called it me time I gotta have it for at least once a month. This picture tells you

Peacefulness

1. First of all, if you like someone I think it's better just like that, leave it there, don't wait, be that one girl that worth having ( just like what F. Scott Fitzgerald had written on his book ).

“You'll find another.' God! Banish the thought. Why don't you tell me that 'if the girl had been worth having she'd have waited for you'? No, sir, the girl really worth having won't wait for anybody."

― F. Scott Fitzgerald, This Side of Paradise

2. Compliment people, this is one of costless thing but priceless at the same time, what comes up from our mouth is the reflection of us, tell your girl-friends that they are beautiful ( you looking good today, that hairdo is really nice - girls love to be noticed especially the little things ) or tell your boy-friends how they really mean to you 

3.  Eat healthy food, you eat junk food most likely because of they look so good, you're just bored, or because you miss the taste. it's okay to eat everything you like but rarely eat something bad for your body, healthy food, healthy mind, healthy body.

4. Appreciate people, 

• when they give you something say thank you

• when you make mistake say sorry

• if you need help say please

5. Take a note, you can write everything in your notebook ; what makes you feel great today, what mistake you've made that makes you feel terrible, what are you going to do, what you love about yourself , how yore feeling and many more things. It's better to pour everything on the paper and when you read it again, it going to remind you, you can laugh or feel grateful because once you improve and you look into the notes you'll unbelievably in love with yourself.

Make a list of reasons why you’ll be better off without them. Believe they are true, because they are. 

- skinnykness

6. Go out and explore, you will figure things out, learn new things, find interesting facts about yourself, meet new people, greet stranger, being happy.

7. Be grateful of everything, be grateful that you are still alive, be grateful even if you have problem -everybody  has - and thank God your problem is not the biggest problem in the world, Allah will never gives us problem that we can't bear / solve. Begin with the little things and when big things come to you that's just unexplained

8. Love every little things of yourself, your whimsical laugh, your awkward smile, the way you laugh, love every bit of yourself, falling in love with yourself is the best thing can ever happened. If you love yourself, everything else doesn't really matter.

Act first to be Happy

“The Paradoxical Commandments

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.

Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.

Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.

Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.

Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.

Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.

Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.

Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.

Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.

Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.

Give the world the best you have anyway.” 

― Kent M. Keith, The Silent Revolution: Dynamic Leadership in the Student Council

“Promise Yourself

To be so strong that nothing

can disturb your peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity

to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel

that there is something in them

To look at the sunny side of everything

and make your optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best,

and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others

as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past

and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful countenance at all times

and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself

that you have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,

and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,

not in loud words but great deeds.

To live in faith that the whole world is on your side

so long as you are true to the best that is in you.” 

― Christian D. Larson, Your Forces and How to Use Them

Effortlessly Chic : Alexa Chung

Alexa Chung is smart clothes combiner, she wears every things so right without having to erase her signature style. Totally in love with her summer & winter style, I look up to her for my daily style because the look she has when she wears her clothes with her style is not really that girly which I love , her style is light, so effortless but stunning! but not just that, her style is different from others, cause from the look that I got, I  think the first choice she makes every time  she picks clothes she has to wear is, the clothes have to be comfortable to wear, and yes I love her 60's look! 

Understanding of Life

I learn many things from these last two months, something happened in my life, it crushed me so down, deep down, leaving scars deep down my heart that if remind it again myself, I cringe. I realised I did many mistakes & misunderstanding. I learn from all those things, those things had their way to made me strong.

• I realised this world has it own rules, even though we have our own perspective of life, if you stepped out of the rules, you'd be judged that you're wrong.
• someone might mum, doesn't mean he doesn't evaluate. 
• to be yourself, even things force you to be not, to in love with yourself first before everything else. Because if you love yourself and happy with it, everything else doesn't really matter.
• express not impress. I learn that showing things off, talking about things we have are just making us looking more stupid. You know, impressing someone might satisfied yourself but it's not okay when you show off and think 'I am the best' but maybe in the other side people look down on you, because of what you did. 
• to love someone completely, with trust, love and caring. When you love someone you gotta do it hundred percents, you have to appreciate their existence, before you cry over their disappearance.
• it's not okay to tell everyone that you are sick, fake smile, make up, dress up, work things out.
• it's better to shut my mouth up than speak useless thing that makes me seem stupid